Larch: When your Grandma Gloriosa and Grandpa Oleander give gifts, there are always strings attached.
Tansy: Or they’re calculated to cross your boundaries. Or just make you feel bad.
Larch: They said they’d contribute to our wedding . . . and only bought decorations we hadn’t asked for. Household items would come with comments like “maybe with this you’ll be able to cook properly.”
We were insisting on no gifts at all by the time you came along. We got boxes of unnecessary baby things. And we couldn’t let them be alone with you — they’d ignore our most basic rules, like “no solid food yet.”
Any one of these things on its own sounds like no big deal! They’re just enthusiastic, it’s an innocent mistake, no need to overreact, just shrug it off . . .
But when it’s constant? It drives you crazy! Worse — you get stuck thinking it’s a you problem, because you can’t imagine they’d be doing this on purpose.