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Party Prep 2/22

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Like father, like son — Larch gets a callback to Hawthorn’s introduction.

Thorn: Right now, it’s only my family here. Hello! Tansy? It’s us —

Larch? What happened to the living room?

Larch: Well, I tried to arrange the seating so everyone would have the best possible acoustics . . . But in that direction, the big-screen projection was totally unviewable!

So I started shifting them around to face the blank wall, and I was almost finished when you got here, I swear.

Thorn: Do you, uh . . . want any help with it?

Larch: No, no. You have stuff to bake, right? Go on through to the kitchen.

Thorn: . . . if we can get to it.

Leif: “Hello! My name is Leif. It’s nice to meet you.”

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Sooo, is he also … not neurotypical or is this just because he’s nervous from the party?

Honestly, could be either, could be both. Being nervous about a situation tends to make traits that are normally less obvious stand out way more than they normally would.

Besides, the intro to the link does say ‘like father, like son’, so… I’m leaning toward either both, or Larch just tends towards over-complicating when he’s nervous, and Hawthorn inherited that trait slightly differently.

Neurotypical people related to autistic people do often share a few of the traits, just in a much weaker way. It’s hard to describe without sounding like creeping towards the toxic phrase “we’re all a little autistic” — but Larch could have a wee bit of the perseverative quality, (in his and Hawthorn’s case about Perfect Arrangement), especially when nervous, but still be well on the neurotypical side of the line.

I’ve heard and used the term Broader Autistic Phenotype, for people who are subclinical but have some of the traits. And people who are BAP are more likely to have children or siblings who are autistic, if I’m recalling the abstracts I read correctly.

Sometimes, they share a few of the traits just as strongly, or even more so, but don’t have enough to be clinically autistic. There’s also a lot of people who just weren’t diagnosed. 70 years ago when my father was around the age it’s generally diagnosed these days, autism was a relatively new thing, the term only taking its current meaning about a decade earlier. It wasn’t something that was diagnosed frequently, especially for young kids. It was *less than* a decade earlier that young kids had first been diagnosed.

As people with autism grow older, we learn how to better adapt to our environment, especially if we’re borderline. Like my father. So while I’m pretty sure my father has enough of the criteria to qualify as autistic, he doesn’t really seem like he’s on spectrum before you get to know him. It’s just that there’s some things that he does that are really highly associated with ASD, but one or two things isn’t enough for a diagnosis.

It’s only after you get to know him that it’s more than just these one or two other things, and there’s also these various things he’s done that you didn’t notice that keep other quirks he has from being as obvious.

Also, he’s lost enough hearing that he’s now significantly below the normal hearing range, rather than above… due in large part to him dismissing his own sense of his senses and accepting what was OK for other people was certainly OK for him.

Hey Erin,
How hard would it be to add an “from the archives” link similar to the one in but i’m a cat person? I really enjoy that functionality on but im a cat person. It makes re-reading more fun.

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