Iona: How about this: Rødlund made it seem like biology is all you’re supposed to care about. But it’s not! You’ve still gotta listen to what people tell you.
When people tell you they’re fine . . . okay, sometimes they’re not. Maybe you do stuff like being ready to help, if they need it.
But don’t be like “no, I must help, it’s biologically impossible for you to actually be fine.”
And if people say they’re not fine — you don’t also need a biological excuse to treat them better! You can just do it.